lonely Denise

it's spring now and the flowers are blooming, and the baby animals are being born, and also, people are getting together. and now I fully understand why someone once vehemently said "lovey-dovey couples make me sick!". sigh... nothing like your previously single friends who are now not so single anymore to highlight one's blessed singlehood. don't get me wrong, I'm happy that they're happy with their partners, and I love attending weddings and matchmaking people. but let's be honest here... people in relationships, are Boring! well, from a single person's perspective anyway. They never want to go out anymore, they are always with the new someone, you rarely see them around anymore, and there's just no one to enjoy being single with together anymore.  I know I was way back when I was still in one... I was probably one of the most boring 'in a relationship' friend to my other single friends, always unavailable for outings and stuff. looking back, the single me would have been really peeved at the attached me. but the worst part is that couple friends will want to make sure you join their side and therefore will always try to set you up with people, thus making your single state sound even more piteous.

that said, I hope I don't offend anyone... this is meant to be taken with a pinch of salt (think of this as froth and not to be taken seriously at all like all my posts). To all my happily taken friends, you know I love you <3 I'm just in a mood to complain tonight (perhaps this blog should have a new name: Denise's Rants... or something like that haha). spring is a lonely time for singles such as yours truly, so have some room in your heart to forgive someone who is still occasionally grapples with the blessings of being alone.

haha I bet these will be the words that might possibly come to your mind after reading all of those:

"wow she sounds so desperate/lonely/sad",  
nah I'm not really... I'm usually a happy-clappy person who embraces singlehood relatively well. I just get a bit lonely sometimes ok... I'm still human with human needs for interaction.

"don't worry, you will find someone eventually" 
That ever elusive and vague EVENTUALLY...

"if you don't think about it, it will come"
How not to think about it when everyone around me are holding hands etc? Close my eyes and block my ears around them??

"I don't think I can hangout with Denise anymore"
No I beg you, please still stay friends with me! I would like to attend all of your weddings and have your kids call me Aunty Denise.


Finally, to all my single friends... keep your heads up and keep on going. Think of all the things you can achieve without a millstone around your neck (jokes!), and don't just stay on the shelf waiting for that "someone" to come, but go out, do what makes you happy, and indulge yourself while you have the means to do so.

goodnight!